tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19420396.post8565688674791381675..comments2023-06-04T02:32:02.295-07:00Comments on Heart as sail, ballast, rudder, bow...: The Nature of Love (according to me)Post-Modern Sex Geekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05228973642366427851noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19420396.post-13037986620732285932009-09-23T16:41:01.521-07:002009-09-23T16:41:01.521-07:00A beautiful post.A beautiful post.Goosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963775591431792688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19420396.post-1262003348354432372009-09-14T21:12:35.363-07:002009-09-14T21:12:35.363-07:00Yes, it's a failing of society that we teach m...Yes, it's a failing of society that we teach men that the best way to express love to a romantic/sexual partner is sex and with women it's...well I can't figure out wth we're supposed to think expresses love best but it's also fucked. How we express love to our beloveds, of any type, is something that should be right for us and for them. Not based on some ideal that was created by people hundreds of years ago who never even knew us and who probably couldn't even live up their own ideals either!Post-Modern Sex Geekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05228973642366427851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19420396.post-4381290429999243532009-09-14T21:01:20.525-07:002009-09-14T21:01:20.525-07:00The thing that I have to keep in mind more often t...The thing that I have to keep in mind more often that I'd like is that love in a relationship isn't about sex. I think guys equate love with sex and that's not true at all. There can be love in a relationship and still keep your pants on. I don't know if it's the way guys are wired, or the way we're brought up, but it's how we see love too often. "If you don't sleep with me, you don't love me." and that's such BS. Awesome post!BChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10352208847985132501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19420396.post-66790311400298581972009-09-14T20:49:45.801-07:002009-09-14T20:49:45.801-07:00Well, if day to day living renders love mundane th...Well, if day to day living renders love mundane then it does it for any and all love, in my view, not just romantic relationships or non-monogamous ones and I like to think of love as something more than mundane. Of course I am guessing that this talk can make me sound like a flake but whatever. If trying to think about love and figure out how to love better makes me a flake then so be it. :DPost-Modern Sex Geekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05228973642366427851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19420396.post-83177597643277297972009-09-14T20:35:54.884-07:002009-09-14T20:35:54.884-07:00i almost wish you'd be in a non-monogamous pas...i almost wish you'd be in a non-monogamous passionate relationship so that you could report back. most of the people who write about it seem like flakes to me, so i don't identify with their ability to flit between and "above" people. but you seem so grounded, i wonder how you could totally get into a couple of people at one time and take 'em to the end. <br /><br />i have had other lovers at one time, but i tend to objectify them, which isn't what i want to do. i wonder what it'd be like to be in love and act on love, with more than one person. <br /><br />the deetails of day-to-day living...would it render it all mundane? am curious...<br />--erika lopezHello...https://www.blogger.com/profile/16850744094255372555noreply@blogger.com