Friday, August 01, 2008

U.S. Blacks

U.S. Blacks, if a Nation, Would Rank High on AIDS
If black America were a country, it would rank 16th in the world in the number of people living with the AIDS virus...


You know, it amazes me that in a country like ours, the epidemic can have such a stranglehold on an entire community, although I suppose it shouldn't. We are after all the same country that spends millions of dollars on abstinence only education that has been proven NOT to work, we can barely bring ourselves to discuss the gender inequities that exist in every community that lead to the victimization and exploitation of women, we will not confront homophobia, despite the fact that it helps fuel the epidemic, poverty is solely a matter of personal responsibility and the rest of us have no need to think about it and we still have blind spots when it comes to the widespread and systemic racism that exists today.

The prevalence of HIV infection in several communities is affected by and affects all of the above and you cannot separate one from the other. The solutions are never simple, as we would like them to be. They instead require every one of us to not only look deeply into ourselves for how we contribute to these problems but it also requires us to call others out when they evidence thoughts or actions that contribute to the problem and that, dear readers, is fucking difficult! I have no easy answers for you on how to go about this. All I can say is that we need to take action ASAP or before you know it, it will indeed be knocking on your door, if it hasn't already.




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Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Because people in airport restrooms can come and go!

Here is a funny segment form the Daily Show about Congress' hearings on the Don't Ask Don't tell policy. It's quite amusing and yet also depressing. How is it possible that educated people can be so dumb????





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Wednesday, July 16, 2008

And now they are so far up your uterus that they can see your tonsils

Cristina Page: HHS Moves to Define Contraception as Abortion
any woman could be denied contraception under HHS' new science


Yes. Re-read that and commit it to memory. This is Bush's big "FUCK YOU" to women in the US on behalf of the fundies. I especially hope that some of the eejits out there threatening to vote for McCain because Hillary lost read this because this is the sort of bullshit science and misogyny that will be nurtured under McCain. As far as I am concerned, any Democrat who votes for McCain out of spite deserves to hung by their genitalia while we are all allowed to point and laugh. How dare you? How dare you bargain with my body just because your person didn't win the primaries??? Fuck you and your stupid sense of entitlement. Don't dare talk to me about the unfairness of it all. How your voices weren't heard and that is why you're voting for McCain. You might as well require to wear a chador and forbid me to drive or go to school for all the good you're doing my gender. You women supporting this PAC especially need to be held accountable because you are betraying all the things you claim to stand for by supporting that Bush wannabe.

Christ have mercy but I want to punch someone right now.

*wipes up blood coming out of eyes*

I know I am probably preaching to the choir here but...

Of all the industrialized countries in the world, the U.S. has, by far, the highest instance of teenage pregnancies with a rate that more than doubles the nearest competitors.


Teen Pregnancy: Why the U.S. Lags Behind Europe

Imagine that. Complete and honest communication about sexuality and access to prevention methods helps reduce teen pregnancies and abortions. Who'da thunk it? Now granted, I know that all is not perfect and shiny in those other countries mentioned but the numbers show that they have managed to do a better job of controlling unplanned pregnancies in teenagers and THAT is definitely something. What I especially loved is the assertion that they do not allow religious agendas to make public health policy, an utterly stupid thing to do anyway. And yet, we as Americans tend so see any information coming from other countries as suspect and tend to scoff at it as being elitist and not applicable to us because we are all very special little snowflakes indeed.

*sighs*

Perhaps someday we will finally acknowledge that humans are-well-human and that fucking around is simply one of the things we do and needs to be treated as simply another, ordinary aspect of being human.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Well it's about fucking time someone admitted it!


State Supreme Court says same-sex couples have right to marry

The question is, will the people of California insist on being frightened, reactionary bigots who cannot conceive of two people of the same gender wanting to be married?


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Monday, May 12, 2008

Yes, there is a difference!


Sex Work vs. Trafficking: Understanding the Difference | AlterNet


An interesting article that popped up in my email today and one that I think EVERYONE needs to read. By equating sex work and workers with those who have been forced or tricked into coming here for the purposes of prostitution and/or other labor, we are undervaluing the experiences of those being exploited as well as patronizing those who have chosen sex work as a means of making a living.

Yes, Virginia, some people in sex work DO choose to be there. They are not all sad, lost little girls who need to be shown the error of their ways by their great, white, straight, Christian saviors.



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Monday, April 28, 2008

All About "That Guy"

This is so utterly right on that I cannot even add to it so just fucking read it.

Sometimes it is not about you. If you have ever received a LiveJournal response anywhere along the lines of "your life, so hard", or "let me tell you, internet, it is tough being a white man", or "get off the cross, we need the wood", this is a sign that you have been That Guy.

Does this make you angry? Does it make you feel upset? Do you feel like your right to speak, like your right to be heard, has been silenced?

That's the space many women live in all the time. And we can't put it down and go back to a place where that silencing doesn't exist the way you can. Because for us, the conversation you just took over was that space, and we are sick and tired of repeating this fact over and over and over again.

Don't be That Guy.




synecdochic: Don't Be That Guy.

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Thursday, March 27, 2008

For the girl who has everything

Or even the boy, I suppose, if he likes pink....



Just In Case Pink Stylish Condom Holder


I looked this up because I just have a conversation with a client about the best way to keep and carry condoms with you so that you are always prepared. There are quite a few nifty options out there, many of which I'd be more than happy to keep in my own purse. Finally, condoms have become fab! Now if I could just get more people to actually use them!

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Friday, March 14, 2008

I found this on in my email today thanks to the sex workers advocacy email list and thought it was by far one of the better musings on the Spitzer situation.

Up to now it has all been hand wringing and condemnation but, being the sexgeek that I am, I am more interested in the whys and wherefores of why powerful people take such chances with their career and life. After all, men in positions of power have always had access to willing (and occasionally unwilling) women and men for sexual purposes. Why do they need to pay for it? What is that all about? According to the writer, who is also a therapist, they do it because when you pay for it, there is no need to worry about "her" satisfaction because you've already taken care of her therefore, it's ALL about you. Now even though I realize how that may sound, I'd be lying if I said I didn't understand. As someone in a position where I often feel responsible for other people, regardless of whether that's true or not, the idea of being able to have someone else focus on me without my having to expend any emotional energy whatsoever is highly seductive. Now granted, for me that means a professional massage as opposed to sex but the concept is the same. I pay the RMT his/her fee and I can lay back and relax and not worry about trying to engage them in conversation or whether I am being compassionate enough or if I am listening actively enough. It's a nice break from the usual dynamic I have with human beings on an everyday basis.

I can also agree with the writer in that this particular way of seeing the world tends to interfere with one's personal relationships. When you often see interpersonal relationships as one more responsibility, one more life for you to be responsible for, is it any wonder that you might shy away from them? Even the ones you already have?

Yeah, fucked up, I know, but it is what it is. At the very least I acknowledge this and it helps me to stop my "stinking thinking", as they call it in the world of rehab, and start to acknowledge that yeah, most of my loved ones are capable of taking care of themselves. Gee what a thought. :)

At any rate, the article gave a different look at what happened and it was thought provoking, to me. Give it a read and tell me what you think.

Sunday, November 11, 2007

A Quick Note from your Postmodern Sexgeek

Hey all you sexgeeks! This is just a quick note to say "Hi!" and direct you over to Pizzababe.com to hear me in my first ever co-host spot with the Pizzababe herself! Have fun and XOXO!




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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

The Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex #28: Happy Halloween from The Postmodern Sexgeek

In today's quickie show I give you a few fun sites for the season and wish you all the morbid best.

Marie B.'s fun sites are:

  • Zombie Pinups: http://www.zombiepinups.com/

  • The Devil's Tramping Ground: http://darkartsmedia.com/DevilsTrampingGround.com.html

  • The zombie Survival Test: http://www.nerdtests.com/mq/take.php?id=6516

  • The Zombie Survival and Defense Wiki: http://www.zombiesurvivalwiki.com/?t=anon

  • The Zombie Survical Guide by Max Brooks: http://www.randomhouse.com/crown/zombiesurvivalguide/



Have fun tonight, be safe and don't eat too much candy.

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Friday, October 26, 2007

The Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex Show #27: Bush is an idiot and VB Rocks

Sorry about this being late folks. Due to circumstances beyond our control blah blah blah...

On today's show I discuss:


  1. The brilliance of Bush appointing an anti-contraception lackey to the position that manages the funds for the nation's family planning programs

  2. To protest this appointment go here.

  3. Talk about the lovely Violet Blue's new DRM free audio book How to Kiss


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Thursday, October 18, 2007

Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex #26: Of Human Bondage

Hey all! I'ts another episode of the Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex! OMG! Don't faint.

In today's show I discuss:


  1. The only new and exciting thing going on in my life right now: puppies

  2. Many thanks to Ash B., my new producer and taskmaster who is kicking my ass and making me produce

  3. An inter view with Laura Agustin who wrote Sex at the Margins: Migration, Labor Market and the Rescue Industry. (Inter view done by Susie Bright and posted on Alternet).

  4. Sex workers who are planning a brothel in Vancouver during the 2010 Olympics


Yes yes, I'm on my soapbox again but damn! Sometimes I just can't help it!



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Wednesday, October 10, 2007

The Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex Show #25: Medical sex and ENDA?

Sorry for the long wait!

First off, a huge THANK YOU to my new show producer, Ash B. who I found on SL. This is now a podcast by a woman, produced by a woman. That's a whole lotta estrogen, baybee!

The first topic I discuss is the trend towards the Medicalization of Sex i.e. everything is a disease and needs a drug rather than better communication and more sexual imagination. Go to this website and this article for a more reading on the subject.

The next topic I discuss is ENDA: The Employment Non Discrimination Act.
In order to get it passed through congress, proponents have decided that removing protection for trans gendered folks is necessary. WTF?

No music today but if i find good stuff, I will be bringing it to ya on my show.

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Friday, September 07, 2007

Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex #24: Give it to me Rough Baby

In today's show I discuss:


  1. What do women really want when it comes to sex? Hearts and Flowers? Down and dirty? All of the above?

  2. And of course, once again, communication is muy importante when it comes to sex

  3. Automatic tooth brush or vibrator waiting to happen?

  4. Proctor & Gamble says : "WE ARE NOT SEX OBJECTS!"

  5. Mom went in for a biopsy on a lump in her breast, which fortunately turned out to be benign!

  6. A sexgeek PSA about the importance of cancer screening. For more info please visit the American Cancer Society website.




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Friday, May 25, 2007

Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex #23: Morning Coffee with your Postmodern Sexgeek

In today's show I discuss:

Work: Yay we got funded so I won't be losing my job! And yes, I am one of the people who helped write the grant requesting funding. All UR HIV FUNDS R BELONG TO ME!!!

Coffee is my fuel! Without it I would be a a Romero Zombie unless I've used my asthma inhaler in which case I'm a 28 Days Later zombie.

An article I found via mySage Feed about how Women's rights are the key to the AIDS Crisis in Africa

Mention some HIV Stats for the US from the Kaiser Family Foundation

And mention the CDC's updated recommendations on HIV Testing

On a much lighter note...

I tell you that May is National Masturbation month!!!

So engage in the safest sex there is (sex with yourself) and cum for a good cause.

And to help you along with that project, I read another of my own erotica shorts : Rough Trade

Intro and Outro music is Ici La Femme XXX Mix by Louise Vertigo from Wakka Chikka Wakka Chikka: Porn Music for the Masses Volume 1 on on Archive.org.



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Thursday, May 10, 2007

I am an idiot

No really, I am. A huge, horrible event occurred in LA this weekend and I was blissfully unaware of the entire thing.

Demonstrators for immigrants rights were at a rally in Macarthur park when the LA police went in and began firing rubber bullets and tear gas into crowds of men, women and children, knocking down people left and right and attacking news reporters.

What is this country coming to? Is this what our country's idea of immigration reform is? Beat up those who speak up and demonstrate for the rights of the people? Of the worker?

I don't know how I never heard of this and I don't remember seeing it on the blogs of any of my friends but do me a favor and pass it on. We all need to see this and recognize that something is very wrong in this country.





Wednesday, May 09, 2007

The Postmodern Geek's Guide to Sex Show #22: I Can too Spell Podcast

So after a 12 hour day, Marie B decided to decompress by recording a podcast. Her topics this time around are, in no particular order...


And various other random ramblings. Please enjoy.

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